Q: Dear Todd, what about when you work with a negative nelly? I ignore her, I don’t validate her, but yet she cannot enjoy peace and quiet – she HAS to fill the silence with her ailments and as much as I try it’s so hard – she sucks the life out of the office.

TODD ANSWERS: ​​​​There is really very little we can do to change others. But, often when we change our reaction, other people adjust how they interact with you. The best thing to do when we get upset in these situations is self inquiry, such as, “Why am I really upset? Is there a way I can be in this moment and not be upset? Can I even love this moment?”