Q: Dear Todd, I am mentally ill, widowed, and my toddler died too. So, I raised four other kids alone. I have been in a hospital once for depression after hurricanes Irma and Maria hit the island, just three years ago. With an empty nest, retirement, and a p/t job in a garden center I stay busy. But, coming back to the USA and our old town is so painful. Everywhere I turn a memory! We moved back to Puerto Rico after the accident that took them. I only have one daughter here. So, I am alone with memories. I wanna move, by the sea, my home and my kids are all totally against me going back or moving to any coastlines in the USA. Here I am 65, free and locked up!

TODD ANSWERS: You have been through a great deal. What a strong warrior you must be to have survived so much. All of us in our lives have to juggle between what we want to do, what we should do, and what others want us to do. But each of us has to listen to our inner wisdom, when we’re at peace and with clarity. It sounds like your kids love you and are just concerned. Whatever happens and wherever you go, I know you’ll be able to find peace there.